Gabi E. MulderGoodbye doesn’t scare me anymore. Goodbye makes me look forward to what’s next, to a new start and to the next chapter I’ll start by myself. Goodbye taught me that people don’t always stay and the things that belonged to you today can belong to someone else tomorrow. Goodbye taught me that nothing is…
I’ve had this posting on hold for a bit but now am sharing it with the world.
This title describes me, a title or aspect of myself without a name, that wasn’t a reality till I was in my late 30’s-early 40’s. One of my Psychology professors at Fresno State, Dr. Price commented on this matter to me, while in his office one day. Dr. Price was a teacher who I admired, world famous for his research and had taken every class he taught as an undergrad in the Psychology dept. One day while talking about stuff that was totally unrelated to ADHD, he looked at me and stated, ” did you know you have adult ADHD?”
The thought had never crossed my mind, it definitely caught my attention. Dr. Price asked some questions based on his observations in various settings and was spot on, in regards to his diagnosis. He further told me that adult ADHD can be different than what we commonly expect to see in kids. In kids we typically see fidgetiness, obvious distracted, the kid on the play ground with spatial issues for example. Spatial issues means the child who runs into things/people and seems/doesn’t have a sense of the closeness of objects and people for example. Common site is they run thru a crowd as if the crowd wasn’t there and are surprised when informed of their perceived rudeness. Basically because their mind and senses are every where but the current space and time. I hadn’t that experience in my life as a child.
What Dr. Price was referring to in my case involved my sometimes talking over others, like the spatial issues, not rudeness just my mind needing to immediately get the thoughts spoke to be able to move forward. Along with being one of those people who either needs music, tv or other noise to help my mind focus on the tasks at hand. As much as I love libraries and I LOVE libraries, for school work and studying my mind just couldn’t handle the quiet. I’m somewhat the adernaline junkie. Love travel, roller coasters , definitely a lead foot/love to drive fast and have even been sky diving. I also have found a way to deal with my wandering mind in meetings, I’m an avid knitter and knit myself thru many meetings and trainings. Doodling does nothing my mind still wanders.
Also, there are many ups to this as well. Besides getting lots of knitting completed, I’ve got awesome time management skills/my mind loves to multitask and I can really get in the zone/tunnel vision. For those of you, who have experienced this or similar lifestyles. I would love to hear your stories and how you have dealt with the positives and not so positive aspects.
I’m a huge fan of Dale Carnegie and have been since I discovered him in high school, which amounts to a handful of decades. His writings have inspired me and helped me stay motivated, even when I became way off track.
Actually, he is one of many who have motivated me over the years. I plan on sharing my favorites quotes from them periodically on this blog . Originally I just had the link to the tweet on Twitter as the heading, but wasn’t happy with how that looked.
This particular quote also encouraged me to look back on my starting this blog and how much I have learned about blogging, the various social media sites and life in general. I will have had my blog a year this October but hadn’t posted anything on it till early this year. Partly hesitation, partly tossing all the ideas around in my head, the how, the why, the goals & basically what direction did I want to start this journey. I took that leap of faith and here I am. Glad I did and glad those who follow me here, on Twitter and Facebook have come along for the ride.
I talk about this in my first ever blog post “Here We Go.” Who knew where this would go or if it would go anywhere. Which is the positive side of taking action and not just wondering ” What if or why should I?” Well, here is the answer to that question so far. Who knows if this answer will change or what the outcome in the future will end up being for the blog, the Twitter account or the Facebook page. So, onward and forward.
One of my friends on Facebook posted and I felt it was appropriate for the blog.
”I think midlife is when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders, pulls you close, and whispers in your ear:
I’m not screwing around. It’s time. All of this pretending and performing – these coping mechanisms that you’ve developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt – has to go.
Your armor is preventing you from growing into your gifts. I understand that you needed these protections when you were small. I understand that you believed your armor could help you secure all of the things you needed to feel worthy of love and belonging, but you’re still searching and you’re more lost than ever.
Time is growing short. There are unexplored adventures ahead of you. You can’t live the rest of your life worried about what other people think. You were born worthy of love and belonging. Courage and daring are coursing through you. You were made to live and love with your whole heart. It’s time to show up and be seen.”